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Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit http://www.findyourowndrive.com or email missy@findyourowndrive.com.

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A local woman‘s natural personal care product line is now in multiple retail locations with a brick-and-mortar ready to open next week. Read on to learn her secret to success.

 

Inside the new Earthganics Artisan Cottage, opening next week in Findlay Market

Just a handful of years ago, Erin Christen was in an unhealthy, dark place in life. Today, she’s feeling healthier than ever – personally and professionally – and her future has never been more bright.

Christen said after navigating through years of fertility issues and feeling “off” after her second child, she was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Disease, MTHFR Gene Mutation,  Factor V Leiden, and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome. “I began working as my own advocate for bettering my endocrine system,” she recalls. “That is when I started looking at my diet and the personal care products I put on my body every day.”

Erin Christen, founder of Earthganics

Her mother made natural sunscreen, so Christen learned about the handmade personal care product development process from her. The first product she developed of her own was a natural deodorant.

“I worked hard to find the right recipe and have not looked back,” she says. “I began looking into other products that would be great and responsible for my family.”

Today, she offers a variety of products, ranging from all-natural deodorants, home and body, healing, oral care, and hand sanitizer. Products are sold online and are in more than a dozen retail locations in Greater Cincinnati. 

Erin inside her new Findlay Market location

And now, Christen is getting ready to open the Earthganics Artisan Cottage in Findlay Market. “Findlay Market will be welcoming us to their wonderful list of permanent merchants,” explains Christen. “We will be open six days a week with the market, we will be offering more eco-friendly container options, refill options, recyclable programs, and so much more.” 

What’s Christen‘s secret to success and her quick growth? She says it’s Melissa Kirkpatrick at Find Your Own DRIVE. “I attribute so much of my success over the past four years to working with my coach, Melissa. She keeps me motivated, inspired and focused. She also keeps me accountable, and channeling all my energy toward the goal we set. Once we reach that goal, we set a new one and work on reaching it,” Christen says. “I cannot believe all the growth my business has experienced since first meeting her when I was just making products in my basement. I know I wouldn’t be here without her. I highly recommend working with her if you want to make your dreams a reality, too.”

To learn more about Earthganics, visit https://www.earthganics.com. To learn more about Melissa Kirkpatrick and Find Your Own DRIVE, and to see how she can help create your success story, visit http://www.findyourowndrive.com/contact

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See how a local personal chef took her business from a professional nightmare to a dream come true — and the secret ingredient that made it all possible.


Rebecca Denney loves making good-for-you-food, but a few years ago, something not-so-good was brewing.

As she faced the difficulty of needing to close down her beloved cafe, she was lost – personally and professionally – with all the decisions and ramifications of it all. 

Serendipitously, she came across a column by life coach Melissa Kirkpatrick with Find Your Own DRIVE. As Kirkpatrick talked about finding clarity, purpose and drive – even after losing steam along the way – Denney decided she needed to call. 

After several months of being coached by Kirkpatrick, Denney had successfully maneuvered out of the cafe that wasn’t serving her any more, and into a simplified personal chef model that allowed her to get back to what she enjoyed again. She then connected with the owner of Aberlin Springs, the area’s first agri-community. She began providing personal chef services, and today she’s the owner of The Modern Farmhouse Kitchen where she provides private personal chef services across Greater Cincinnati, as well as manages Aberlin Springs‘ on-site market, meal prep, chef and catering services for the entire community. 

“It’s a dream come true,” Denney says. “I look out the window every morning and see all the beauty around me, getting to do exactly what I love to do. I no longer have all the stresses that held me back before and paralyzed me making bigger and better things happen for myself. I know I wouldn’t be here had I not called Melissa and worked with her to find my path through the thick of the fear and pain and into this beautiful place full of purpose and possibility.” 

To learn more or see how Melissa can help create your success story, visit www.findyourowndrive.com/contact.

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Have big goals but feeling exhausted, unfocused and unmotivated to reach them lately? Our life coach columnist has helpful advice.

What happens when you lose your drive before you hit the finish line? How can you find your own drive when all else fails? Lately, this is one of the most common concerns with my clients and I wanted to offer some support. And, yes, it happens to me as well.

You begin by striving to reach a goal, you set the intention, you see the outcome, you visualize what happens and as you move from day to day you become really exhausted, unfocused and unmotivated. BUT you are so close to getting what you desire and yet you lose your drive. Why? And what can you do?

First, you can stop all together. Yes, stop putting pressure on yourself to achieve that goal. If it just doesn’t seem attainable or you just don’t want to keep moving forward, then stop. Then give yourself permission to reevaluate. Maybe this isn’t the true goal you desire. Perhaps you are misaligned with what you want to achieve.

For example, relate this to health and wellness. You may want to reach a weight to be a certain size or for an event, and you do so but soon after you find your way back to the weight you started.  Why is that? Because you were aligned with the energy of wanting it for only a specific time. If you realign and consider being healthy and well not only aligns with being at a healthyweight it also is for longevity and vitality.  The bigger focus. 

How can you align your energy?  Think about something you did that brought you so much joy and happiness – marriage, baby, college degree, bought a home – and when you remember that with the joy and excitement, how you felt good, and others were cheering you on, that exact energy level is what you want to match in this new goal. The inspiration, jazz and motivation you felt when you reached that goal is the secret sauce.

This goes back to how you do one thing is how you can do all things.  When you align with your energy of what you do welland bring that energy into your new goals, you’ll see how you can keep your drive all the way to the finish line.

As a mantra you can say “I am good at -this- so I am even better at -that-!” Start today and get the clarity and support that will keep you focused and motivated to drive confidently to that finish line.

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We often hold back from sharing what's truly on our minds and hearts for fear that it won't be agreeable with others. Our life coach columnist shares how one pivot can unleash your true potential.

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you speak your truth, only to get a reaction that it was not well received? You desperately wish you would have kept that inside, but now it’s out in the open. Yikes! Most often, we pivot in that moment to make things more agreeable.

Isn’t it interesting as women, how we want to make our voices be heard but at the same time we are limiting our authentic selves for the sake of others? And yet there will still be those who criticize and judge you for your actions.

What I mean by speaking your truth is saying what you really feel and mean. Being able to express yourself in a manner that is received by others in love and light and not in disapproval or disbelief.

Recognizing what you speak about creates the future, by aligning your truth with what you desire and how you want to feel, and you share that in conversation. Others may react in a manner of giving a look of surprise, be shocked, or even appalled that you would even think what you said is possible. 

Anytime you find yourself in a conversation that you speak your truth of how you want to live your life, what you want to have,or what you believe and cherish, and someone gives you that look, don’t take it personal. Oftentimes it’s just a reflection of their own insecurities and only wish they could have the courage to speak their truth.

You may be inclined to want to apologize or make excuses for what you shared based on their reaction, but don’t.  Smile knowing their reaction is evidence they are dealing with their own insecurities and admire you for speaking confidently about yourself and your life.

Keep shining your light, my friend. Keep speaking your truth and know you are safe in creating your life by design. Oh, and don’t be surprised if others fall away who aren’t in favor of your up-leveling.  Know this is how you make room for new supporting and appreciative individuals who show up to support you fully without judgement, fear, or criticism. 

Sending Love & Light,

Melissa

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We‘re all in need of seeing beyond our current circumstances and moving into something better, but it begins from within. Our life coach columnist offers advice.

Well the moment we’ve been waiting for, drumroll please, will schools stay open or shut down? Will students attend in person, virtual, or continue to be homeschooled? It is evident that our educational system has been forced to take on new strategies for educating our children, and parents are faced with big decisions.

My heart goes out to those students and kids who are having to navigate an unforeseen, and unpractical, and just an unfortunate way of spending their time in or away from school, and the parents who are having to make big decisions and major shifts.

If you’ve been following me you know my go-to line in times of not knowing the answers or having a solution is “All is well. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe.” It’s a mantra I learned from Louise Hay.

What can you do in this moment to be helpful not only for yourself, but for those around you, and those who are stepping into a new beginning?

The saying goes never to judge someone unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. And until you are in their situation you can’t say how you would feel or react. Take control of your opinion of others and stay in your lane. 

In addition, if you are a bystander, you work in the educational system, or you have children that you’re concerned about, or other things that have you on edge, allow your thoughts to run rampant, for just a moment, and then call them back in and reframe the story.

Recognize what stories you are telling yourself, or stories that you are hearing, and decide with an educated mindset if these stories are true for you!

Oftentimes you are given a story and you hold it to be true without doing any type of research, without going to the person directly, or without really processing the understanding that there is always two sides to every story and then there’s the truth in the middle.

So, whatever this looks like for you know that you control your thoughts and the manner that you perceive circumstances. Meaning, you will only get what you have the mindset to change and the capacity to understand and recognize your part in all of it.

Be a “good finder” (always looking for the good in a situation)  and seek out ways to be encouraging and supportive to others. We are all in need of seeing beyond our current circumstances and moving into something better, and it begins from within.

Sending Love and Light,

Melissa

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Does 2020 have you filled to the brim with fears, emotions, and pain?  Our life coach columnist shares a helpful releasing technique.

Hello? Is this thing on? Have you ever seen someone go up to the mic and that is the first thing that they do? Or speaking into the cell phone asking, “can you hear me now”? Perhaps this is how you are feeling about 2020. Hello!?

Isn’t it interesting to think just a year ago your life appears so different? Over the past several months, you have truly been bombarded with the ongoing emotions of 2020. You definitely didn’t have this on your vision board, and now you are tapping into mic speaking to the Universe saying hello is this thing on? Are you out there?

What if the tapping I’m referring to could be a way for you to release your own fears, emotions, and pain? Would you be interested?

Think outside of the box for a moment.  There is a tool/practice that is highly effective in shifting energy and moving through the uncomfortableness of negative emotions. This practice is called EFT (emotional freedom technique) and is an alternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress. Also referred to as tapping.

The practice uses the meridian points (much like acupuncture and acupressure) for moving energy in the body so it does not get stuck. Stuck energy can often lead to not only uncomfortableness but illness. Tapping is support for the body by creating a balance in your energy system and can be done at anytime and anywhere.

Today I encourage you to step outside of the box and start working with yourself in the manner that you can shift stuck energy and find balance in your system. Here is a video to get you started.  Jessica Ortner explains the practice in more detail and walks you through the tapping points of EFT.

I hope you find value in this practice. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  

Sending love and lots of light,

Melissa 

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Our life coach columnist discusses the difference between burning and crossing various bridges on your journey, and which moves you toward a higher level of fulfillment.

Growing up you may have heard the expression “don’t burn a bridge” meaning not to end a relationship (personal or professional) in such a way you make it impossible to return if you need to go back that way. And although there is validation to this statement, what if instead of not burning the bridge you simply just cross the bridge? This thought came about when I read an affirmation from the Louise Hay calendar saying, “Every bridge I cross brings me to a higher level of fulfillment.”

Nothing in that statement implies to burn the bridge but it does indicate forward progress. And if you think about it long enough you will discover crossing the bridge to higher level keeps you in forward motion and not looking back. Therefore, a burned bridge isn’t the issue, it’s the staying connected to the past that limits you in moving toward a higher level of fulfillment.

In this moment, I encourage you to pause and think about the bridges that you cross (and perhaps burned) that are keeping you from moving forward and continually to look back. What’s “back there” that you haven’t resolved or come to an understanding from the experience? How are you allowing it to keep you in story that doesn’t serve you today? And, when will you be ready to let it go and move forward out of the past? 

Crossing those bridges that didn’t serve will often bring on the same pattern moving forward if you haven’t fully released the energy around the experience.  

Here’s what I suggest moving forward from the past: Set a clear intention that you will no longer allow that moment in time to hold you back. From there, you can visualize walking across the bridge in confidence that you no longer have the time or energy to hold onto that story and are free to let it go. Now be open to find new bridges to cross that brings you to a higher level of fulfilling.

Sending you love and light,

Melissa

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Being grounded at home takes on a whole new meaning as an adult. Our life coach explains how to use this extra homebound time for growth and realignment.

One thing I know for sure that being in quarantine you sure get to spend an extra amount of time in your home. Discovering things that you no longer like in your home, or finding the cobwebs that you’ve overlooked for some time, all you can do is just embrace the life of being within your home.

What does it look like when you find yourself stuck at home? The freedom to not go out, to not be engaging with others like you once did, and even having to work from home?

Although it feels like a big struggle with the transition, because change is always difficult especially when you don’t expect it, I often find the balance comes when you can really embrace what is.

When I think about coming home, or being at home, I think about grounding myself inside of my body.

This was something I learned a long time ago not realizing how out of my body I lived my life. When I learned to calm my thoughts and be still I could bring back all those pieces that were “out there” and move them into a safe space that is within my heart. 

Your mind runs the show so often and you follow it without resistance. But when you begin to realize that your heart is the one that really has all the answers, and knows what’s best, it will allow your mind to quiet so that that feeling inside of yourself allows you to make those better decisions, feel good about yourself, and just live in the happiness, most joyful way that is available for you.

Don’t ever limit yourself to what you can achieve in your lifetime. Knowing that everything is working out to your highest good and that all things happen in divine timing will lead the way. 

So get grounded. Allow yourself to be still to quiet the mind and go within your heart space and see what you find. As it was said in the Wizard of Oz by Dorothy “there’s no place like home!”

Sending Love & Light,

Melissa

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Many successful people attribute their prosperity to a solid morning routine.  Our life coach columnist shares tips for creating one that works for you.

The choices you make that first hour upon waking may determine how you will manage your day forward. Many successful people all have a solid morning routine and they attribute a lot of their progress to this routine. Do you have an established morning routine that has you jumping out of bed in the morning? Or do you find mornings to be a challenge? You hit the snooze numerous times and bury your head under the pillow?

I know for me I look at other successful people and think what are they doing that I’m not? Is there a secret formula? So, I began the research and discovered that those individuals following a morning routine do gain greater control of their life having a morning routine. The research also indicated that they all do it differently! Yes, they are not cookie cutter approaches. They all discovered what they desired, implemented a plan, and developed a routine that met their personal needs and desires as well as fit to their morning schedule.

Yes, they had similar activities but in a different order, or even for shorter or longer amounts of time such as meditation, getting ready, or workouts.

From this discovery, I believe that if you want to start or improve a morning routine there are a few things to build into the development of your plan.

Mantra: “I am ready to make the morning count no matter what the day may bring!” This allows you to think differently about the morning and gives you validation you can manage your day.

New Belief: “one size fit all” –NOT. Sometimes we are “programmed” to belief certain things and this one my dear is not one of them. 

Decide: Experiment with options. Giving yourself permission to say yes to what feels good and no to what seems like a struggle.  The decision is yours alone and you choose based on flow and ease.

Action: After you define the habits you would like to bring into your morning routine take action. Begin with learning to quite your mind and doing the routine knowing you are boosting your productivity and success.

Remember: “A carefully choreographed morning routine is the key to a productive day”.

Sending Love & Light,

Melissa

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What should you think in those moments that hold you back? Our life coach offers insight and a free workshop to reprogram your mornings for more positive and productive days ahead.

Can you remember a time when you were at the top of your day feeling happy, alive, and excited? A time that was going so well you didn’t realize it was about to be changed by one unfortunate misguided action — on your part. Like, you felt so good you almost had to blow things up to bring you back down off the high because no one should ever feel this good?

Whatever the scenario, know that you have a choice to make. Either spend time worrying about something that happened in the past or regroup and align with the present. What can you do in this moment to allow yourself to not hold onto the energy of what happened that makes you feel the guilt and shame? You can choose to take the path of knowing you can release those emotions and conversation going on in your head. You can let it go and reframe the story.

Easier said than done, I hear ya. There are still events that pop in my mind from things that happened that I wish I could change and the zing in those thoughts take me back to reliving the event.  

What I have found to be helpful is when I can pause and ask, “what do I need to know about this situation”? “What are the limiting beliefs showing up for me to let go of that no longer feel true”? “What am I doing now that brought that memory back onto my radar?” “How will this serve me moving forward?”

When you can focus on the experience with eyes of love and understanding, you receive what is clearly there to learn.  When it is from the eyes of guilt or shame you receive more of that. Law of attraction stays like-attracts-like. 

If it still seems difficult to move through the story try releasing by crying, punching pillows, writing out the story and burn the paper, and when you find you are back to thinking about it just shift into “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” which allows you to come back to you and in your heart space. And remember just breathe. You are human and things happen. It won’t be the first and certainly won’t be the last. Keep moving forward. The past is the past. Stay present in the moment!

Also, if you’re interested in creating new habits and learning how to start each day with a routine that sets you up for success — personally and professionally — I invite you to join me this Thursday for a free Morning Routine Virtual Workshop. It’s July 16 from 8-9pm via Zoom. You can learn more and RSVP at www.cincy.live/events/morning. Hope to “see” you there!

Sending love and light,

Melissa

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