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Melissa Kirkpatrick

Melissa Kirkpatrick
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Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit http://www.findyourowndrive.com or email missy@findyourowndrive.com.

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As we ease into life with the new normal, our life coach columnist shares three tips to begin your next chapter.

Today we pause for the American holiday Memorial Day a time for remembering and honoring the men and women who died while serving in U.S. military. Many Americans visit cemeteries or memorials, holding family gatherings and participating in parades on this day. And, unofficially, it marks the beginning of the summer season.

How symbolic that we are emerging and blossoming out of quarantine at the same time we celebrate the opening of summer. However, the excitement we once felt around this time may have you still concerned about the virus. COVID 19 came in like a wrecking ball and turned the world upside down without any notice for preparation. 

Summer is the time of year you enjoy the outdoors and sunshine, but since quarantine, fear has taken root because of all things unknown or understood. 

Many will go with gloves and mask for protection and begin the journey to finding ways to navigate this new way of living in the world while others will wait and watch.

And although we don’t have clear evidence it’s safe, allow this message to help find some peace to being enjoying without the fear.

First, avoid all the thoughts and ideas you are concocting in your mind that are the doom and gloom. I know it is not easy, and it is what has served you in the past. If you really think about all the things you worried about over time only a small percentage actually happens, and not in the way you had manifested in your mind’s eye to begin with.

Next, celebrate in a way that lifts the vibration and energy around being a “good finder” (always striving to find the good), believing there are things to be learned and new ways of living your life. Move forward enthusiastically by shifting out of the fear and into “out of this situation only good will come; I am safe.”

And, be in nature as much as possible.  Soak up the sun by swimming, boating, glamping, and golfing, or take up gardening or hiking with family and friends.  

Lastly, set the intention to start with new summer trends and include those traditional ones of backyard barbeques and family gatherings where the memories are being made and traditions start. Think about a world beyond the scarcity. What do you want the story to be and how will it light you up? Meditate on that and it shall become. 

Sending Love and Light,

Melissa

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As businesses start to open again and some sense of normalcy resumes, our life coach columnist explains how it can be the prime time to shape your best life.

One thing that has been evident during the pandemic is how simplifying life has moved us all closer to our most natural state. There are far less selfies on social media, no exotic excursions, who’s-who events or fancy nights out. In addition, the use of virtual meeting rooms has opened us up to a new way to being business professionals. No stately offices or wining and dining at impressive business lunches. It’s just you.

How are you navigating the simplicity and stillness in your life? Are you finding a balance? Perhaps you are anxious to get back to what you once new as “normal.” Yet, deep down you know it will not be the same normal you once experienced.

Looking at what has change for you personally may include your personal self care. Little, or lack thereof. 

Are you finding wearing makeup does not seem to be nearly as important as it once was? Has your hair color taken a drastic change during this time? Maybe the real color, which you had forgotten, will be your new look? And who knew those leggings would get so much attention.

Oh, and when you get ready to leave the house, do you know where to find your bras?

All this is true, and yet I personally feel there is a reconnection to ourselves and source when we tap into self care as a human being. The stillness feels natural in the sense we all get to breathe. The quiet on the outside helps us hear the whisper of our inner voice.

What if the real need in all of this is to just be in your own state of au naturel? No use of filters, no polished presence on social media, no longer hiding your vulnerability, fear, and scarcity. Getting back to the basics of living your life from a place of gratitude, acceptance, and loving what is?

Before jumping back into the next chapter of life from the pandemic I offer you the opportunity to really take inventory of what you learned, discovered, and received from the quarantine. What’s truly worth jumping back into? What you will change and do differently, and what you are willing to let go of that once felt so important but no longer serves?

See yourself as that caterpillar transforming into the beautiful butterfly. Open those wings wide and today start living the next best version of yourself. From out of quarantine you have arrived in your true and au naturel state of being.

Sending Love and Light,

Melissa

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Our life coach columnist explains how diving into something artistic can reduce stress while also helping you discover more creativity, productivity, and fulfillment. 

Are you a lover of the Arts? Branches of the arts includes painting, sculpture, and architecture, along with music, theater, film, dance, and other performing arts, as well as literature and other media. What is your interest? You might have to think back a bit to when there was more time and less inhibition to explore the arts.

Music has always been a passion of mine including singing and playing the piano. I played for high school choir, children’s choir for church, and for several weddings many decades ago. My passion faded over time when I began filling my mind with self-help learning and letting music go to the wayside.

Interesting though, since being in quarantine, I am finding myself listening to more music and being back at the piano tickling the ivories as they say. Not playing at the level I once did (practice makes perfect) but just playing for fun and I realizing how much joy and happiness it brings me to play.    

What I realized is music has an impact on the spirit. Listening to music has a magic connection that allows you to be on the frequency of an energetic exchange and vibration that shifts something within, where you will discover more creativity, productivity, and fulfillment. 

From this awareness, I encourage you to set back and tap into a time when you felt so connected and aligned with the magic of the Universe through an art source you would lose time doing that very thing. 

Revisit what that felt and looked like for you. Embrace thosefeelings. Allow what is and all the emotions that are attached to that time and space to come through. Be in gratitude.

Now consider bringing that art form back into your life. Maybe you need to buy some paint and brushes to create that masterpiece or fire up that karaoke machine and sing your heart out, or perhaps you can sign up for acting lessons.  Whatever moves you in art form, do that — Nothing is off limits.

And as you engage with the frequency, know you are awakening the creative muscle to spark the energy you desire to open to those things that light you up. Bring back the magic through the art form you have let go to the wayside. Isn’t it time to revive that creative muscle and fall back into the gifts you’ve been given?

Sending love and light,

Melissa

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Whether you’re a mom or not, our life coach columnist has advice and helpful tips for how to nuture yourself with some motherly love.

This time of year, we celebrate Mother’s Day, the one who gave us life and those who have taken the role as a mother through fostering, adopting, surrogate or blended – a mother is the center of our life source, the heart that beats in rhythm with the soul, and provides unconditional love.  

“Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had.” —Linda Wooten

In today’s message, whether you are a mother or not, I want to shed light on how you can be the mother of yourself, your soul, your life.

Nurturing, caring, loving, and supporting are characteristics of being mothered. Allow yourself to consider the ways that you might be mothering you. Are you being gentle and kind with yourself. Do you take time to rejuvenate or reset. How do you talk to yourself in the mirror? What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for yourself?

This can look different in many ways but perhaps it is just beginning by doing the things that you love to do without permission from anyone but yourself.

Take a bubble bath, read a book, sleep in or take a nap, watch funny movies, call a friend and talk for hours like you used to, read old love letters, clean out a junk drawer rear causes you stress, and just be open to what you might find and discover, go fishing, golfing, ride your bike. The list is endless. Whatever “taking time” for you looks like – do that!

And if you don’t know where to start, I recommend a book by Louise H Hay “You Can Heal Your Life.

An excerpt from the book is “Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back. What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.”

Today, embrace what is and be open to mothering yourself so you can shine your light for others. The work begins with you. May you find the love, compassion, and kindness your soul seeks so you can live the best life now. 

Sending love and light, 

Melissa

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Our life coach columnist shares a simple technique for lowering stress, releasing the overwhelm, and regaining a sense of calm.

If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything. If you don’t take time for your wellness, you will be forced to take time for your illness. Many expressions like these seem to be overlooked and misunderstood until you, or someone you love, becomes ill and not well.

Although you look and feel healthy, how often do you ignore those little signs by thinking of all the reasons it’s nothing? Or you notice it but are too busy to take time to have it checked out. Oh, and maybe it just gets ignored by self-medicating with ibuprofen or perhaps alcohol or other substances? 

You may think I eat healthy, drink water, and get exercise so I’m good.  And that’s awesome. However, your health isn’t just about what you eat, drink, or how you move it, although that is important, better health is achieved when you can manage stress along with mental and emotional symptoms.

How can you offset those feelings and emotions when they become too much? I discovered “grounding” of my energy allows me to connect with the mind-body-spirit in a way for releasing much of the overwhelm.

Here’s my practice for grounding.

Begin by sitting or lying down in a comfortable position. Closing your eyes. Using your mind’s eye beginning at the top of the head and slowly begin to scan your body. See light coming in from the top of your crown and allow it to flush over each part of your body starting with top of the head, the forehead, eyes, check, jaws, etc. moving down the body in this manner. If you can hold the vision all the way down to the end of your toes, sending love with all the light, your body will feel a subtle release of stress, anxiety, and be calm and stable. 

If at any point you start feeling uncomfortable or notice darkness wants to come in instead of the light be curious and ask “what do I need to know” and breath into the area that has caused you to pause during the mind scan.

Continue to do the process until you feel complete. Use this anytime you need to collect your thoughts, release stress, or a quick re-energize. Think of grounding as medicine for your soul. 

And remember, it’s one thing to have your health and another to be well. Your body is a magnificent machine. Day after day the body works in ways you could never fully explain or understand, but doing your part by taking the time to love on it often is key. 

When you have your health, you truly have everything! Be well. 

Sending love and light,

Melissa

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Our life coach columnist shares how this new way of life can inspire new ways of thinking and how to use the quieter days to listen to your inner voice.

During this time of the pandemic it is evident that many businesses are struggling and may not reopen when the all clear sign is given. And yet there are many businesses that are doing well and soaring to new heights with their business though online services. I’m curious what new businesses are being created behind the scenes that will immerge out of this time of uncertainty. 

You may be thinking how in the world could a new business be formed during this time? 

History has shown it happens often. Downtime like this offers the expansion of the mind to find solutions to an existing problem or concern, and a product or service is developed.  

For instance, look at all the mask that have been made by individuals who have the skill set to sew and stepped up to use their talents to support the cause. This may ignite an idea that would have never considered until now.

As for the brick and mortar businesses, through this experience are going online discovering a new way of doing business and can stay open through e-commerce, social media or virtual meeting rooms. For many, this is already changing some business plans and offering important insight to business owners.

Perhaps you have found yourself wondering what’s next for you in business and life. Will you continue to do what you did previously (or are still doing) or has this worldwide pandemic opened your mind and thoughts around doing something else?

When I turned 30, I took a leap of faith and returned to college to earn my teaching degree while working full-time, managing our home and finances, along with raising our two sons then age 6 and 8. That decision has forever changed the projection of my life and all my life experiences since.

What do you desire? And who do you want to be beyond the COVID-19 crisis?

Take time now and daydream a bit about what you see yourself wanting. Research the career or business you’d like to pursue and what actions you can take now so you hit the ground running when the quarantine is lifted.

If you believe you don’t have a choice to make a change, I challenge you and say yes you do.

For more support, I am offering a virtual visional board workshop: manifest beyond quarantine. Learn more and RSVP at: https://cincy.live/events/vision

Sending you love and light,

Melissa

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Speaking from experience, our life coach columnist offers inspiration to entrepreneurs that helps re-engage with the spark that started it all, and how to keep fanning the flame through struggle.

Living the life of an entrepreneur has brought big adjustments from the current pandemic. Finding new strategies to continue to work often comes with a new learning curve. Remember why you started.

When you decided to become an entrepreneur, there is a strong commitment to taking on a business where you organize, plan, front financial investment, manage and operate the business. Risks are involved, but for the person with creativity, imagination and a desire to be their own boss — they’re willing to do the work.

The current pandemic is bringing a new and unforeseen perspective for entrepreneurs on all levels, and for many, they are having to learn new ways to “do business” since closings their doors due to social distancing. 

Welcome all entrepreneurs to the next level of doing business online.

For those who are already established as online business and run things digitally, not much changes.  However, those who are digital and meet with individuals, groups, or host and attend events, are learning new ways to gather– online.

As you navigate this as the business owner, the real challenge in all of this is lack of the energetic connection all humans desire. Now it is up to you to bringing the energetic connection virtually! 

Here are a few ideas to consideration on how to align the energetic connection moving forward with your online business.

* If you lack confidence in your online messaging, then keep it simple and short. The online world goes much faster than in person, so you only have 30 seconds to make an impression.

* Creating content just to be creating content – find a flow with your content. Develop a schedule where you provide content on the same day of the week for specific topics and bring video messages to break up the written feed.  Keep your messages brief and to the point

* Raise the energetic connection – take time for you to get grounded and feel energetic before posting, going into an online meeting, or doing a video.  The energy you can amp up inside yourself will be reflective in your videos and offer more creative juices when creating content which will vicariously transfer into those receiving your message.

* Not feeling it – that’s okay. Give yourself permission to take a break and be sure to let your audience know. Just don’t let it be too long or momentum will be lost. Perhaps you’ll find taking half day Fridays and off the weekends will be all you need to rejuvenate your energy level and come back on Monday with high energetic connections and content.

Remember, we are all in this together. Need extra support ask for help. And by all means stay connected.

Sending Love and Light,

Melissa

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In this home-bound time of life with extra time (and stress) on your hands, our life coach columnist invites you to learn more about yourself. Read on for more.

Your heart beats over 100,000 times a day. It takes approximately 12 hours for food to entirely digest. A sneeze travels out of your mouth at over 100 mph. Things that are happening all the time without thought or consideration. 

Since the unforeseen pandemic, you may be discovering things about yourself that are both challenging and rewarding. Learn to navigate the challenges and obstacles is ongoing and this world event has challenged us all to be way more discipline than ever before.

As the world dives deeper into social distancing and discovering a new normal for life, questioning “what is” has many feeling uncertain and yet continue to get up each day and work through the uncomfortableness and anxiety so you can be one day closer to resuming normal programing.

Did you know that we won’t go back to what was perceived as normal? 

It will take some time for the economy to bounce back and for all of us to adjust to the day-to-day that was abruptly changed almost overnight. The best support I can offer you in this time of uncertainty is begin healing from this experience now.

Ask yourself, “what can I do in this moment to begin working towards being on the other side of what feels like a nightmare?”

Begin with learning more about YOU. Have an interview with yourself asking “did you know” questions about things you are learning to let go, create, or releases while being in lockdown. Also include things you now love, enjoy, and are happy to beexperiencing in this moment and time. Think of it as grooming yourself to become the next best version of you. 

Start telling the story today from a place of “did you know…” about how you became a stronger, more driven, more loving, and deeply connected to living your best life during the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020. Choose to embrace this world event and make it one that will forever change how you live moving forward and beyond from a heart filled with gratitude for all that is and blessings for what will be.

Out of this situation only good will come and if you need support let’s connect.

Sending love and light,

Melissa

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Our life coach columnist explains how to use this time of less busyness and distraction to step out of this on the other side as your best self.

Life sure can change quickly and without notice. As we continue to navigate the fall out of the world and get the virus under control you may be finding that you are looking ahead and wondering where you go along this path, beyond the scarcity and uncertainty.

I am a strong believer that thoughts become things and out of any situation good will come. Learning to lead by the spirit of love, and follow being a good finder, is where I have stood firmly for myself, my family, and others during this time and always. What I know for sure is if I lean into the fear, then I’m not able to fully delivery my light and goodness out into the world.  

My niche in life has been to help others create their life by design and how you can make that happen. And now moving forward, those values are still my priority AND I am finding I have a new niche in life.

During a conversation with a stranger I was supporting around her fears and what her family can do during this time, she asked “are you a healer”? I paused for a moment considering the question.  Then without hesitation I replied “yes, indeed”. My healing comes through helping you find and fix what’s causing the record to skip and replay the same thing over and over. 

With that being said, I want to challenge you to consider this for yourself in asking what is your “new niche” on the other side of this pandemic?

Since you have less distractions and really no excuses, this is the perfect time to settle in and take inventory, reflect on all the ways you’ve done things differently since the outbreak of the virus, and how it has affected your work. Who are you becoming in this process?

Are there things you are learning about yourself that are going to change you moving forward? 

Do you know that from this moment forward there are things you will or won’t continue?

Have you deepened more into hope, faith and trust, or fear, doubt and panic? 

I encourage you during this free time to really take advantage of the moment and go within and learn more about you. Drop into the stories and what you believe to be true that now may look different.  And start now to plan how you will come out on the other side and what your new niche in life will be moving forward.

Sending Love and Light,
Melissa

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Our life coach columnist explains how self-love is the secret ingredient to staying grounded in uncertain times.

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” —Rupi Kaur

I don’t know about you, but I am in need of a pick-me-up, a moment to pause and be reminded of feeling happiness and gratitude without all the fear and doubt that is consuming so many. Stop letting the fear override your hope. Fear will only lead to more scarcity and uncertainty.  

But, Melissa, it’s scary times for the world. And yes, I hear you, it’s been that way since you arrived on the planet.  It just comes in different forms and look at you. You have survived all the times before that you thought was the end.

Start with you by making selfcare a priority. If you neglect taking care of you first and only focus on others  – family, friends and clients, navigating the current state of pandemonium in our world, you may quickly lose sight of the importance of releasing all that you are observing and absorbing from others and forget to release what’s not yours to come back to being fully grounded in your body.

I challenge you, starting today, to consider using the phrases I AM A “spirit of love” and I AM A “good finder”. These two phrases become a mantra that will shift your focus to a higher vibrational level and begin to release FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) in order to open the mind and heart to expand in self-love.  

Self-love is the best kept secret because “how you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” and loving yourself is a crucial step in the human experience because of the ripple effect.

You know how the water will ripple when a raindrop falls on a body of water? Your love for you is how the ripple affects the people in your life, and their reactions in return affects you. The impact you have on the world is greater than you can imagine so begin using the ripple effect to make a positive difference and spread waves of kindness that will wash over the world and joyfully return to you tenfold.

Sending you love and light,

Melissa

P.S. – The act of grounding or coming back to center can also be achieved by doing simple things such as burning incense or sage, taking a bubble/essential oils bath, meditation, listening to music, or taking a walk in nature. Your intention is to reset your system and clear the mind, even if its just for a little while.

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