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My mom married my father when she was 19. Less than a year later, she had twins – my oldest brothers. I’m at the bottom rung of eight kids. When I was growing up, my mother used a considerable amount of her energy to tell me that I had plenty of time, there was no rush, just wait to have kids and settle down with someone. Since my two sisters started procreating practically as soon as they reached adulthood, I can only assume that they either ignored her advice, or for some reason, she unduly targeted me.

Regardless, I took her advice. I have no regrets about not marrying any of my ex-boyfriends because, looking back, I realize now the relationships wouldn’t have worked over the long-term. My friend Suzanne calls us the “new statistic,” women who are waiting longer and longer to marry. I’m fine with this. I have an active social life, an interesting career and a great place to live in Covington. What seems strange to me are all the people who don’t agree with my lifestyle choice, if you can call it that. 

Tina sat in the cubicle across from me when I still worked in an office. While I am a huge proponent of “cube etiquette,” sometimes it’s just too damn difficult not to overhear others’ phone conversations.

Here's a typical Tina phone call to husband:

“I thought you were making steaks tonight.” (Pause)
“No, chicken is fine.” (Pause)
“No, (getting upset) I love chicken. I love you. I love when you love chicken.”

Tina says that I’m “just jealous, because you don’t have a significant other.” Don’t have a significant other? I don’t even have any chicken!

This is a constant theme in my life. I had a recent e-mail exchange with a favorite client in Alabama. We went back and forth with some Q&A, and then I finally came up with a resolution to her issues. She sent me a final note thanking me for my assistance, and tagged a p.s. on the e-mail: “So have you met anyone yet?”

Urgh.

A while back, I had a meeting with a client to finalize his marketing plan. We discussed promotional specs, deadlines and budgeting. By the end of the meeting, we covered every angle and were ready to move forward with our plans for the multi-million dollar account. I felt confident that everything would go forward smoothly and he was pleased with my overall project handling and turnaround. He even felt compelled to make an encouraging comment as I left his office: “By the way,” he said as I walked out, “Can’t believe some nice young fellow hasn’t snapped you up yet.”

I guess I need to add chicken to my grocery list.

 

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Cincy Chic: Have you always lived in Cincinnati?
Salyers:
I grew up in Northern Kentucky and moved to Cincinnati when I married my husband, Jim, a Cincinnatian. We moved to the south side of the river about 15 years ago. I had just started Fabulous-Furs and it was quickly growing. We had a big five-bedroom home and I was also the yard person. Our daughter had just started college, our son was a high school senior and it seemed a good time to move from such a large home. We put it on the market and within a couple days, it sold, along with all our furniture. We were homeless and needed something quickly, so we created a loft apartment over The Madison – a banquet facility Jim had just begun. So, we're here by default but thrilled with how it all worked out.

Cincy Chic: What's your favorite spot in the Cincinnati area?
Salyers:
My husband and I love to roller blade and it's especially beautiful on the bike trail near Terrace Park, early on Sunday mornings.

Cincy Chic: How did you get your start in the bridal/fur scene?
Salyers:
Jim's banquet business grew quickly and much of it is wedding-related. The Madison brings about 2,000 visitors to Covington each week and he decided to create a Wedding District to better serve the bridal market. Fabulous-Bridal opened in November, 2005 and immediately become a destination for brides from Louisville, Lexington, Nashville, Indiana and Ohio. It's a very special occasion when a bride-to-be shops for a dress and we do everything possible to make it a fairy-tale experience.

Cincy Chic: Where were you 10 years ago and where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Salyers:
Ten years ago I was working really hard, building Fabulous-Furs. In 2017, I'll be working really hard, building Fabulous-Furs.


Cincy Chic: If you had to pick one thing that made you a success, what would you say it is?
Salyers:
Perhaps being totally clueless. About three or four years after I started Fabulous-Furs, someone asked about my business plan. I was naïve or clueless enough to ask "what's a business plan?" So, I've certainly worked from my gut and have always felt that no matter what, I'd find a way around, over or through. Maybe it's good not to know how difficult a task can be. But no complaints – I've enjoyed it all.

Cincy Chic: What do you love most about your job?
Salyers:
I love that it's always new and exciting. It's always changing and evolving and challenging. It's never boring or routine. I'm one of those crazy people who really enjoys working.

Cincy Chic: What's been your biggest bump in the road and how did you overcome it?
Salyers:
Many big bumps have appeared, but 9/11 triggered perhaps the toughest time. We were on a track to double that year and had a million catalogs in the mail, reaching people September 11-14. We staffed up and inventory was at an all-time high in order to handle our largest mailing ever. Of course, the business didn't come because most of us thought the world was ending. Shopping was the furthest thing from people's minds and the economy went spiraling out of control. It was dreadful. We had half-price sales just bring in cash to pay the few people not laid off yet. We'd take orders during the day then head for the warehouse in the evening to fill the orders. I feel very lucky and blessed to have a company that lived through such a dark time.

Cincy Chic: Personally, what's been your greatest success?
Salyers:
I love the dynamics of business and how building a business can help a community, provide jobs, add to economic development, contribute to personal development and hopefully make the world a bit better.

Cincy Chic: Any advice to impart to women out there wanting to start their own business/boutique here in Cincinnati?
Salyers:
It has to be something you love, because you'll need a real passion to sustain you over the hard times. Learn everything about everything and be prepared to be hands-on, then work really hard and pray.

Cincy Chic: Do you come across many "Bridezillas" in your line of work?
Salyers:
No – most brides are thrilled and relieved when a detail as important as a dress is resolved. Here's a really cute story: Mother of God Church is a block from Fabulous-Bridal and one of our brides needed a place to change. It happened to snow that day, so several of the girls kept the store open so she and wedding party had a place to comfortably get dressed. They ended up walking her to the church, one along side sheltering her with an umbrella and another behind, keeping her dress out of the snow and ice, all laughing hysterically.

Cincy Chic: What's the biggest trend in weddings these days?
Salyers:
Uniqueness – it can be color, or some special detail that makes the dress really yours. It might be a monogram, a four-leaf clover or any little detail that means something to the bride, the couple or their families.

 

 

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A Sexy Red Siren Theme

Everyone must wear red! Rent a hotel room and cover it in red decorations: streamers, feather boas, big hearts, etc. If it's available, rent a red limo for going to the bars. Even make the stripper wear something red. All drinks must be red: red wine, dye all vodka and gin with red food coloring, red mixers like cranberry juice, etc. If you have food, it must be red too!
– Jamie, Fort Thomas

 

 

These are all things that I have or am doing for bachelorette parties:

  • For my friends bachelorette party that I was the maid of honor for we went to Keeneland for the afternoon on a party bus, came back and had dinner that I'd cooked and than went out to the bars. It was a fun time.
  • For an upcoming friends bachelorette weekend we are going to a bed & breakfast in KY for two nights.
  • And several years ago we went to Gatlinburg for a weekend as the bachelorette party. We'd rented a chalet, went shopping, out to dinner and all that fun stuff! Lots of girl bonding time.

– Sarah Black, Taylor Mill, KY

Karaoke! The best place in Cincinnati to Karaoke is Tostados in Tusculum. I know the owner and the entire staff exceptionally well, and could orgainize any Bachelorette parties. I would love to introduce anyone at Cincy Chic to the wonderfull owner and staff of Tostados!
– Kris Cooper, East Walnut Hills, (513) 871-0212

For My Sister's Bachelorette Party we did a paint your own pottery party…we all met at one of those shops and painted pieces for her, she got to pick out what she wanted. We did a Fiesta Theme and had margaritas. Not crazy with penis necklaces..but fun, especially for a second marriage.
– Emily, Pleasant Ridge

You can't go wrong with a shoe party at Shoetopia. For our private parties: We provide the champagne/wine, all attending receive 10% discount, bride-to-be receives 1/3 off one pair. Here's the fine print: Max 20 people, preferably after business hours (although there is some leeway), hors d'oevres are the responsibility of the host (although we have a great list of caterers). E-mail shoe@shoe-topia.com or give a ring at the store (513) 591-SHOE to learn more.
– Jessica, Owner of Shoetopia

 

Have all the bride-to-be's ex boyfriends there to tell her why she should NOT get married.
– Linda Gambino, Cincinnati

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Five Things Every Woman Needs To Know

Cincy Chic teamed up with WLWT Channel 5 to bring you their popular "Five Things Every Woman Needs To Know" segment information. Check out this week's "Five Things," because after all, you're a woman and you need to know!

 

Watch for the reports at 5:15 p.m. on Channel 5, or come here to read the reports!

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Five Things Apr. 13: Firm Up Faster

Five Things Apr. 12: Going With Your Gut

Five Things Apr. 11: Pet Poison

Five Things Apr. 10: Best and Worst Drugs

Five Things Apr. 9: Money Problems

 

Want to share your ideas for "Five Things"? Click here!

 

 

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"What can I do to safely reduce muscle mass or elongate muscles in my arms, legs and torso? I'm a rather buff chick and I'm tired of being asked to flex for the boys. Also, what does it take to eliminate and further prevent my "double butt cheeks" forming just below my buns? The thought of a bikini is making me freak."
– Geni K., Cincinnati


Geni, I have to tell you that you're hanging around the wrong guys. If they're asking you to flex for them, they obviously have some inadequacies… like a muscle on their own bodies, if you know what I mean.

If I were you, I'd take that buffness and slap them upside the head with it, instead of asking me how to reduce it and play into their stupidity. You've been given a gift, don't F*@k with it. If you really need to smooth out some of the muscularity, then I suggest cutting your workouts down to twice a week and reduce some of the intensity. I'm a genetic freak and can grow muscle if I think about weight training and that's what I did to reduce some of my bulkiness.

To answer your second question, I've never heard the term "double butt cheeks," but I can assume what that statement represents. This is probably not my place to say anything, but screw it. Don't you have better things to freak out about than worrying about wearing a bikini that's five months away? Maybe you're just a worrier and I should mind my own business, oh yea… that's right, you wrote me.

Stop worrying. Rocco's here to help, but you have to promise me that you will send my editor a photo of the before and the after just to show you that your worrying was not warranted. Stop doing squats because I know you are doing them. Long stride lunges performed on the same leg for 30 repetitions followed by an exercise called "mountain climbers" will suspend your butt like it was on strings and do away with the "double butt cheek" folds.

Mountain climbers are performed as follows: Get down on all fours, then position your left leg straight out in back of you while bending your right leg and bringing it underneath your torso and to your chest. Now alternate this process for 60 seconds. You can do as many sets as you feel comfortable with. When summer comes, don't hesitate to show your new butt off because I think this year's swim suits will be very flattering on you.

 

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Let me start off by saying thanks for all the emails. Some of you have found me on MySpace at www.myspace.com/adidasgirlno1 and read up on me a little more. Great! I want you all to feel comfortable with me, and feel like you know me.

I have received several questions along the same line. So let me group them together. I received this first question from several readers, so I'll answer it first. Before I do though, I want to say that these readers took a big step by letting me put their first name and area where they live. So, hooray for you!

Kim in Forest Park, Lisa in Hyde Park and Toni in Mt. Airy asked: “How do you know you’re gay?” and “How do I know if I’m gay or not?”

Let me tackle the first question.
I get a lot of people that say, "You just haven’t met the right guy yet!"
If I had a nickel for every time I have heard this, well, let’s just say I would be living very a comfortable lifestyle! "Finding the right guy" isn't a blanket solution.

Let me ask our non-gay readers a question or two. “How do you know you’re straight?” Easy question, right? You just know! Then, there's the, “If you haven’t been with a same sex partner, how are you so sure?” You just know. I know I’m gay just like you know what orientation you are. It really is that simple.

You don’t have to be with a same sex partner to figure it out. I’m willing to bet that you know and don’t feel you have to define yourself. Everything should come in a natural, not obligatory, way.

The second question is kind of the same question. I’ll just elaborate from above. How can you tell if I have tendencies to be gay? If you haven’t had thoughts about it, then I think it is safe to say you’re not. Although, some people keep it deep inside until their 30s, 40s or even older.

In my opinion, try to come face-to-face with this issue as young as you can. That way, less lives are interrupted. Some women and men get married thinking that the feelings will go away if they love their partner enough. Most likely, it will get to you sooner or later and you will not be able to live like that any more. I think it is harder to come out the older you are. That’s the conclusion I got from the survey I purposed to my friends.

If you want to be included in these surveys, let me know and I’ll put you on the list. It will be about many subjects. You can even suggest a question if you like.

Keep the e-mails coming to ggunckle@cincychic.com! I love hearing from you.

 

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"Blades of Glory"               
Will Ferrell, John Heder, Amie Poehler, Jenna Fischer, Craig T. Nelson, Will Arnett, Scott Hamilton

If you don’t watch TV or you don’t have a funny bone then you may not have heard of Will Ferrell’s newest comedy called, Blades of Glory. Will Ferrell teams up with John Heder to create another comedy spectacle masterly implemented by directors Josh Gordon and Will Speck.

Even the characters names are funny. Will Ferrell plays ice skater Chazz Michael Michaels. A mildly talented skater whose testosterone showmanship on the ice makes him  a popular skating figure in a world where grace, poise, precision and athleticism matters. He’s a loud, egocentric self-admitted sex addict on the ice as well as off. “It’s a real disease!” He tells Nancy Karrigen after he tries to hit on her at his hearing of the National Skaters Federation. What makes it even more hysterical is Chazz’ flat out ignorance of protocol and remorse in front of the board’s greats; real life skaters, Brian Boitano, Peggy Fleming and Dorothy Hamill.

Pairing the comic talent of John Heder (of Napoleon Dynamite fame) as Ferrell’s foil on ice is brilliant. Heder plays Jimmy MacElroy, who is the epitome of finesse and innocence that plays so well against Ferrell’s slovenly behavior. Both have been banned from skating in the single men’s competition. A loophole is discovered that would allow both men to skate again; with one hitch. They would have to skate together as a couple in the couples division. That concept alone and the trailers showing some of the scenes with the two of them performing are priceless.

Jenna Fischer and real life married couple Amy Poehler and Will Arnett play siblings. Fischer is the normal one of the Van Walberg family and Poehler and Arnett are the brother sister team who play the competitive nemesis to Ferrell and Heder. Cameos from real life athletes  John McEnroe and Sasha Cohen just add more credibility to the frivolity that ensues.

Add to that an ensemble cast of characters who play their parts straight in a circus of idiotic silliness and you have a movie that earns its title as Blades of Glory because this movie is gloriously funny. 

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041607SL.jpgCincy Chic: When did you first get into music?
Spears:
My first musical experience was on the piano. My dad used to show me little things on my great grandmother's piano when we visited her. I always looked forward to going to her house because she had a piano and she was really funny. I started taking lessons around first grade and then my parents bought me a piano after they realized I was pretty good at it.

It was the best birthday. A truck pulled up to our house with a selection of pianos and I got to pick which one I wanted. I out-learned my teacher and stopped taking lessons, until we found another teacher who helped teach me modern sheet music that I liked from the radio.

Cincy Chic: When did you start singing?
Spears:
I first started singing in church and the school choir. Other than that, I was really shy. I always felt a special connection with the choir teachers at school. One teacher really got to know me and volunteered me for a lead part. After the feeling I got when I sang by myself in front of an audience, I had no problem trying out for leads and hungered for the parts. Later, during my 6th grade year, I played for the high school band.

When I got to the 8th grade, I was given a lead roll in a high school's play. I continued to sing at school in every musical aspect. Then, I started singing at local fairs and festivals with music tracks behind me.

My first demo was recorded with those same tracks using equipment at the church we were attending at the time. My grandfather was there with me, as he and my grandmother were the first to buy me the tapes to sing along with.

Cincy Chic: As a talented singer and pianist, when did you become interested in playing the guitar?
Spears:
I picked up a guitar when I was 15 after watching a documentary on Melissa Etheridge on the Lifetime Channel (we did not have MTV or VH1). She inspired me to want to sing and play the guitar and write my own songs. My mother bought me my first guitar out of the classifieds for about $25. It was a classical acoustic guitar.

After she realized I really wanted to learn, was learning quickly and teaching myself how to play, she ordered me a $300 acoustic guitar from Fingerhut Magazine. I still have it today; I named it “Harmony.”

Cincy Chic: Where do you get the inspiration for the songs you write?
Spears:
When I first got my guitar, I began writing songs about things I went through, such as love. I still write about love or love lost. Hopefully, I’ll have a different experience soon, but maybe it is my fate to write songs that help people in their relationships. Who knows, right? This led me to play the guitar and sing at the Fair instead of using the music tracks. One of the neighborhood boys got tragically and mysteriously killed. I wrote a song about him and was requested to play it in ceremonies surrounding his death.

Cincy Chic: When did you first decide to join a band instead of just writing songs by yourself?
Spears:
After the funeral of my neighborhood friend, I met a few guys from a local band who were friends with him, as well. Through our conversation, we found out that we were all playing at the same fair. They asked if I would like to try out and play a few shows with them, including the fair. I did, and we clicked instantly.041607SOCIAL.jpg

They became my second family. After the shows they had promised me, they decided to keep me on full-time. This was until another band saw me at a larger performance and stole me from them. It was the hardest decision I had to make up until that point in my life, because they had become a huge part of me life. I went with the new band and starting playing more and making more money.

Cincy Chic: Besides playing at festivals and fairs, what other musical endeavors did you take part in?
Spears:
One day, during my junior year of high school, as I always listened to the radio while getting ready for school, I heard the morning DJ announce a jingle contest. I immediately ran upstairs to my karaoke machine and started recording an idea I had, including the harmonies and guitar music. My dad yelled that we were going to be late for school. I packaged up the cassette and had my dad mail it out that morning.

After the long stretch of the contest, and having people call in to vote for my selection, which they called "The Harmony Jingle," I won. This led me to go to the studio and re-record the jingle on a more professional level and landed me a spot on their morning show, so they could introduce it. One of the jocks at the studio was familiar with my music teacher and found out how much music consumed my life. He offered me an internship.

This intensified my anticipation for the summer. By the time summer rolled around, a new band had snatched me up and the radio station booked us for their huge Chicken Wing Cookoff Celebration at one of the malls. Before that happened, we had another large concert at a different mall with The Spin Doctors, an artist named Janna and Blessid Union of Souls. All of the interns had to pick a band to help out for the day. I picked Blessid Union. This meant I had to transport them back and forth to their hotel and get them anything they needed… and hang out on their bus in the meantime. When I met their lead singer, Eliot, we had an immediate connection for some reason.

When he found out I sang, played guitar and wrote music he excitedly gave me his contact information. The radio station allowed me to make him a demo at the station. After a few months, Eliot started flying and bussing me around via Greyhounds, to a whole new world… Cincinnati, OH. For being such a small-town girl, this was a big deal to me.

Cincy Chic: When did you decide to permanently move to Cincinnati?
Spears:
Even before the trips to record in Cincy, I had always known that to pursue my music I would move away from everything I knew growing up. Up until that point, I just hadn't figured out where or when.

After high school, Eliot helped me – that small town, naive, young girl – to the big city of downtown Cincinnati. I had no car, no job and no friends. But, I was extremely excited and determined to make my way.

Cincy Chic: After graduating from high school and moving to Cincinnati, did you make time for college?
Spears:
When I first moved to Cincy, the timing was a little off for recording purposes, since Blessid was in full touring mode from their "Walking of the Buzz" album which featured the song "She Likes Me for Me." This led me to go to college.

041607SL2.jpgI went to AEC Southern Ohio College (now, called Brown Mackie College) for audio and video production. There, I learned more about the technical side of recording and also video. I accomplished summa cum laude and Student of the Year. As I had worked with Eliot in spurts and a controlling boyfriend warded me away from working with a male, I soon moved back home to regroup and write.

Cincy Chic: Did moving back home end up working out for the best?
Spears:
Many great songs and adventures came out of moving back home. There, I signed with a record label and Eliot began driving to Morgantown to work with us. After a while, he intrigued Blessid's old producer to work with us instead, and a friend of mine offered to let me move in with her rent-free, back in Cincy, until I got on my feet.

So, I left the label, quit my day job and moved back to Cincinnati to continue pursuing my dream. My friend ended up moving as soon as I got there and left me homeless with no income. The producer ended up having too many projects going on.

So, there I was again. I left everything I had behind and had nothing, but I was determined to keep going and reaching for my goal. I got some monetary help to pay for a deposit and first month's rent in my own place. I got a job and started lining up gigs and letting people know I was back in town. We started recording. Life was great. Well, except for me not fitting into the “day job” mold.

After praying about it and really weighing my options (even though I was pretty partial to one side of it), I decided to quit my day job, again, and just play music. I began really booking and doing all the business side of it myself. I started putting a band together (which has evolved with new players) and continued recording with Eliot.

Cincy Chic: What is your life like currently?
Spears:
Today, I still perform for a living. I book many solo shows in bars, restaurants, theaters, colleges, festivals, churches and we just began performing as the “Holly Spears Band,” which I am extremely excited about!

All of our shows and new Holly Spears tunes are posted on www.myspace.com/hollyspears and my Webmaster updates www.hollyspears.com as often as she can. We are currently weighing our options for finishing the album and looking for the right record label and management. I'm just waiting to see where the next domino falls. So, stay tuned and ride out this musical adventure with me.

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Latitudes Cafe's "She Jams" spring concert series is a series of 12 concerts showcasing notable female recording artists from Greater Cincinnati such as singer/songwriter Holly Spears, 2006 Cincinnati Blues Challenge Winner II Juicy, roots rocker Tracy Walker and other top-notch female performers from this area.

This series began on March 25 and will continue until April 26. The series takes place on Wednesdays at the Latitudes Anderson location and Thursdays at the Latitudes Milford location. At both locations, everything gets kicked off at 8:00pm. There is no cover charge and off street parking is available at both locations. Here's the remaining schedule:

LATITUDES ANDERSON
7426 Beechmont Ave
Cincinnati, Ohio 45255
(513) 233-9888

April 18th
Cheryl Renee
A dynamic and extremely popular bandleader, keyboardist, song stylist and "Goddess of the blues" was born and reared in Cincinnati. She hit the road with local R&B group "Mad Dog Fire Department" in the early 1970s. Back in Cincy after 30 years, she teamed with local group "Them Bones" and landed a top 10 spot at the International Blues Challenge in Memphis, 2005.

April 25th
II Juicy
Cincinnati’s 2006 Blue Challenge Winner! If that doesn't say it all, come see for yourself why Michelle Feaster, aka II Juicy, has taken Cincinnati's Blues scene by sudden force.

LATITUDES MILFORD
18 Main Street
Milford, Ohio 45150
(513) 831-9888

April 19th
Kinsey Rose
After moving to Cincinnati, Kinsey began writing with Jeff Pence, of Blessed Union of Souls, and has a song cut on the Cincinnati Clutch Hits, which is sold at the Great American Ballpark. She sang the Star Spangled Banner for the Reds last summer and has a song on Jungle Jams, a Cincinnati Bengals-endorsed album. She is now finding her true country roots and continuing to write and perform as she sings her way to Nashville.

April 26th
Tracy Walker
Tracy Walker plays extensively in the Greater Cincinnati area and has appeared on stages in Tucson, Los Angeles, Atlanta, Indianapolis and many other cities across the country. She is playing dates around the country to support the release of her "All This Time" album. Find out why Tracy has developed a well-deserved reputation as a fierce solo performer.

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Q: I think your topic should cover why men are so forgetful about things their women want them to do. How can we get the message through nicely but effectively?

– Ann, Harrison

A: You know, it’s funny. I had totally planned on answering this question about a week ago. Yet, ironically, I forgot.

I don’t really think it’s fair that guys get labeled as “the forgetful ones.” Birthdays, anniversaries, your mom’s birthday… Over the years, we’ve kind of garnered a bum rap for forgetting important things like that. Or even little things, like putting the cap back on the toothpaste, leaving the toilet seat up or noticing your cat in the driveway. We can’t help it we’re easily distracted beings (Ever see Nicholas Cage in "The Weatherman?" You’ll see what I mean.)

A while back, I thought it’d be a good idea to start using a Smartphone, a mobile electronic “secretary” capable of reminding us of all the things we usually forget. Being a gadget freak, I figured I’d use it all the time. And for the most part, I do. Phone numbers, calendars, to do lists – it all goes into the Smartphone. It’s rather brilliant, actually. Until I forget my phone. Then I’m totally screwed. I mean, how many of us actually call someone by remembering their phone number? If I don’t have my phone with me, to look up someone’s digits by name, I’m pretty much incommunicado until I can look up their info on my phone, or my computer.

But I digress. Is this really a guy thing, per se? Personally, I think women are just as forgetful as men. It’s just that women are much more vengeful and vocal about our mistakes than we are about theirs. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if the whole thing started with a scorned woman (throughout history, isn’t that how a lot of things got started?) whose man forgot something, and got the ball rolling. No matter how horrible of a day he had, a guy simply can not win if he forgets something important. Especially a birthday or anniversary. If he does, it’s off to the couch he goes to sleep that night.

But in today’s fast-paced, mochacchino-driven, ADD-riddled world, where every second counts, I’m surprised everyone isn’t more forgetful. In fact, I’d almost encourage it. Life without IM, cell phones, MySpace and OnStar? Are you kidding me? Could anyone survive more than a day? We’re too busy, too accessible and innundated with so much meaningless crap every single day, it’s not too hard to see how we can be so forgetful, men and women alike.

So cut your guy some slack. Chances are, like the rest of us, he’s got a lot on his plate, and didn’t mean any harm in forgetting whatever the heck it was he forgot. Of course, there is that small chance that he actually is a huge jerk, in which case you should delete all of his contact information from your Smartphone immediately.

In short, try dropping subtle hints well ahead of time, if you want to remind someone of a special date, or something that “needs” to be done. Be nice. It’s that whole “catch more flies with honey than vinegar” thing. Although, I have no idea what you’d wanna do with all of those flies. They’re nasty little pests, and can carry disease. Now, what were we talking about again?

Have a Question for Pete? Send him an e-mail at pscalia@cincychic.com.