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Our life coach columnist shares a simple technique for lowering stress, releasing the overwhelm, and regaining a sense of calm.

If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything. If you don’t take time for your wellness, you will be forced to take time for your illness. Many expressions like these seem to be overlooked and misunderstood until you, or someone you love, becomes ill and not well.

Although you look and feel healthy, how often do you ignore those little signs by thinking of all the reasons it’s nothing? Or you notice it but are too busy to take time to have it checked out. Oh, and maybe it just gets ignored by self-medicating with ibuprofen or perhaps alcohol or other substances? 

You may think I eat healthy, drink water, and get exercise so I’m good.  And that’s awesome. However, your health isn’t just about what you eat, drink, or how you move it, although that is important, better health is achieved when you can manage stress along with mental and emotional symptoms.

How can you offset those feelings and emotions when they become too much? I discovered “grounding” of my energy allows me to connect with the mind-body-spirit in a way for releasing much of the overwhelm.

Here’s my practice for grounding.

Begin by sitting or lying down in a comfortable position. Closing your eyes. Using your mind’s eye beginning at the top of the head and slowly begin to scan your body. See light coming in from the top of your crown and allow it to flush over each part of your body starting with top of the head, the forehead, eyes, check, jaws, etc. moving down the body in this manner. If you can hold the vision all the way down to the end of your toes, sending love with all the light, your body will feel a subtle release of stress, anxiety, and be calm and stable. 

If at any point you start feeling uncomfortable or notice darkness wants to come in instead of the light be curious and ask “what do I need to know” and breath into the area that has caused you to pause during the mind scan.

Continue to do the process until you feel complete. Use this anytime you need to collect your thoughts, release stress, or a quick re-energize. Think of grounding as medicine for your soul. 

And remember, it’s one thing to have your health and another to be well. Your body is a magnificent machine. Day after day the body works in ways you could never fully explain or understand, but doing your part by taking the time to love on it often is key. 

When you have your health, you truly have everything! Be well. 

Sending love and light,


Melissa Kirkpatrick
Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit or email