Maletine’s Day

Maletine’s Day

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You’ve heard of of Galentine’s Day, but what about Maletine’s Day? Our life coach columnist examines the universal roles of deeper connection and visibility, despite differences.

Men, can you see a Maletine’s Day in your future? Would pics of you and your male friends celebrating friendship over brunch, photographed, and posted on social media be something you would say YES to?

Yeah, probably not.  

On a 2010 episode of “Parks and Rec,” in which the main character, Leslie Knope, decides that the day before Valentine’s Day should be an opportunity to celebrate the platonic love among women, ideally with booze and breakfast food known as Galetine’s Day. Since the episode aired, the fictional holiday has caught on in the real world.

The desire for men to engage in this form of visibility and deeper connection may not be on the radar.  

From a recent presentation delivered by me on Visibility and Deeper Connections for Entrepreneurs, the conversation turned to how that might relate to your personal life. Of course, I believe and teach on how you do one thing is how you do all things, so the two are connected.

For men, the gap is how to relate to another man at a deeper level to where you can be open and share with empathy and compassion, and with no judgment. Growing up the programming didn’t allow for men to learn how value arelationship like the women who were always talking about longtime girlfriend connections.

I get it. AND I also see how men are the first to lose friendships over time when business and family get in the way of those “nights out with the boys” become less frequent to slowly fading as only a memory.

Working with my clients, I find that if you are not making time for visibility and deeper connections, then you are missing the opportunity for more to be available in your life. The practice of engaging and connecting may lead to much more then you may realize.  For instance:

1. You are top of mind when someone needs help because of the relationship you have built over time
2. You may live longer by being out and having a good time feeding your soul with laughter and fun
3. You learn from others as well as teach others – the winning friendship
4. You discover there is more going on around you then you may have ever noticed
5. And, when your older you’ll still have those buddies to go on retirement trips and hit the links or bars or both (no judgment) instead of setting alone in the recliner watching reruns of your favorite 1980s TV shows.

Start now in reaching out, or reconnecting, to others making those deeper connections and being visibility for your souls’s sake. And do not wait for the Maletine’s Day to begin for I don’t feel that will actually become a “holiday.” 

Sending love and light,


Melissa Kirkpatrick
Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit or email