Our life coach columnist explains how to discover - and eliminate - what’s secretly holding you back from reaching your full potential.
What’s holding you back? What obstacles are limiting you from the ultimate success in your health, wealth, work, and love?
Often the struggle is overcoming barriers. There are two barriers that I find causes you to not reach your full potential is fear and an upper limiting problem.
When fear shows up it is to protect you. Or so it thinks. You may find you have a fear of change, a fear of failure, or maybe a fear of taking a chance. Whatever the fear is find the source. I use this phrase to tap into my fear so I can understand where it is coming from and quickly release it.
I goes like this: “Hello fear I see you and I know you are False Evidence Appearing Real (F.E.A.R.) and you want to protect me. What is it you are protecting me from?” Then I just listen to what comes up. Often it is something from the past that I have experienced, and it didn’t work out, so I can shift that belief and understand that this time it will be different.
On the other side of fear is where your greatest desire and dreams happen so what else can be holding you back? An upper limiting problem.
The book “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks, is all about Upper Limiting Problem (ULP). The bottom line from this book is if you don’t concur your fear and upper limiting problem you will always stay right where you are.
How an ULP shows up is when you are feeling good and super happy, then out of the blue you have this manufactured stream of images that are painful and uncomfortable.
It may appear something like this. You and your friends have an amazing evening enjoying dinner and time away from the kids. You are feeling alive and blissfully happy. As you are leaving your friends you begin to have these images of something bad happening. You manufacture in your mind things to sabotage your good feeling because you are not accustomed to this level of fun. You may trigger thoughts of gloom, seeing a loved one hurt, your home catching fire because you left the flatiron on.
When this happens, you manufacture thoughts that make you feel bad. Why, because it brings you back down within the bounds of your limited tolerance. This is the place of safety.
The shift comes when you are willing to recognize both the fear and upper limiting problem and feel good anyway. Not allowing fear to run the show and learning to push past those limiting beliefs will provide a clearer path for achieving your true potential and attaining success in all areas of your life including financial, wellness, career and love.
Remember: On the other side of fear and the upper limiting problem will lead to your happiness and fulfillment. You make it happen!