Wedding Bloopers

Wedding Bloopers

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Bloopers - any time in life, not just big moments like a wedding - are funny to some, and traumatic to others. Our life coach columnist explains how to work through the pain in precious moments.

Have you ever found yourself watching those videos of wedding receptions “bloopers”? The throwing of the bouquet and everyone is sliding and falling all over, or the drunk relative trying to bust a move on the dance floor. Or what about those wedding cakes that hit the floor before they are ever cut. 

As fun as they are to watch, this stuff really happens, unfortunately, and a memory is created that is shared for a lifetime. 

Much like the memory that is created, some will find it funny while it haunts others. Others may have not given it another thought since the time of the event.

How do you manage memories that bring you an uneasy feeling of “if only” or “why” flood of emotions that you felt in the moment and cannot seem to shake the memory to the point it has a tight grip on your thoughts?

How can you release this memory? Or keep it from haunting you? Consider asking these series of questions:

– Is thinking about this experience serving me?
– When I think about this experience am I uncomfortable and sad?
– What if I could no longer think about this experience?

If you are ready, then begin by recreating the story as if you are writing a chapter in a book and providing all the details related to the moment in time when this happened. Then read the “chapter” like you are seeing it for the first time.  

Imagine being in a movie theater, eating popcorn, and watch the characters play out the story. When it’s over, imagine the movie credits coming up on the screen and when THE END appears, burn the pages! And as you do, laugh and sing releasing it to the Universe to be recycled over space and time, so you no longer carry the memory. (if you have sage you can burn a piece of that with the pages.)

And by the way, the other characters in the story are probably not even thinking about that moment.  It’s you who has kept it alive all this time in your mind and now it’s time to let it go.

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Sending Love and Light,


Melissa Kirkpatrick
Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit or email