Do your friends often disappoint you? Do they put you down or make fun of you? Do they cancel on you or abandon you when you need them most? If so, maybe it’s time to find a new friend.
Friendship begins with an acquaintance who soon you realize you enjoy being with them. They are fun, bring you joy, and make you laugh. You get to cry with them and share all your dreams and desires.
A friend is someone you trust and with whom you share a deep level of understanding and communication.
A good friend will share the same interest and listen to what you have to say, think and feel. The bottom line is they accept you for who you are.
While they may give you the advice you don’t want to hear from time-to-time, they will never purposely steer you wrong. They tell it like it is.
Having that friendship of someone you can rely on regardless of the circumstances is priceless.
When you think about how you are showing up in your friendships:
Are you a good friend who is loyal?
Do you accept them for who they are in the good times and bad?
Are you willing to give more then you take?
Are you showing up when they least expect you to and shower them with love?
Take a deeper look at your friendships and see if they have the following attributes that many describe as a healthy friendship:
- mutual understanding and trust
- appreciation for each other
- equal give and take
- not one-sided
If any of these are missing you may want to reevaluate the continuation for the relationship. Or perhaps you may want to improve your own friendship attributes to meet the needs of others.
And remember that friendships can come in a season, or are there for lifetime, you decide. Often these friendships can be like a branch on a tree, sometimes pruning is required to allow a new, stronger branch to form.
Here’s to friendships — “Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they’re always there…”
Sending Love & Light