It’s not easy being a mom. You’re raising a child, but you’re learning a lot in the process, too. And that’s why we wanted to start this new feature for you as a reader. I’m very excited to start the new “Chic Mom” column for Cincy Chic because I do consider myself to be just that.
I love shopping in local boutiques, dressing my daughter, Holly, in all the cutest clothes and finding all the fun family-friendly activities there are for us to do in Greater Cincinnati. I also love to throw on a fab dress and fun pair of stilettos for events around town, or just a date night with the hubby. So, that’s what I’ll be writing about: Great boutiques, cute kid’s fashions, events around town, and how to be fabulous and family-oriented at the same time.
So, for this first column, I want to tell you a little about myself and what kind of a mom I am. I always dreamed of being a mom. I know, kinda crazy, right? But it makes sense. My parents were amazing growing up, so why wouldn’t I want be that, too?
Now, after becoming a mother for the first time two and a half years ago, I still find this the best, most rewarding job I’ve ever had. But it hasn’t come without some struggles.
After I had my daughter, Holly, I really struggled as a woman with a lot of things: time management, how to feel sexy again, etc. Because, all of the sudden, I took on this new identity and title of "mom."
Several of my friends were still single and couldn’t relate to my new life as a married woman, much less life of a stay-at-home mom. But over time, I figured a few things out: There will never be enough time no matter how well you manage it, and my husband and I are learning how to keep the spark alive. Actually, I think things between my husband and I are better than before we had Holly, all around. We joke because “we still got it!”
In terms of what “kind” of mom I am: I was always so flexible with naps, I tried really hard to breast feed (but it only lasted a week), I don’t and didn’t make my own baby food (but I will have to admit that I admire the women who do!) and I absolutely love when my daughter makes messes (even though I’m horrible at cleaning it up). Don’t laugh – it’s true!
I don’t sanitize everything all the time because I feel germs are okay and they help the immune system. I am pretty laid back; unless something’s bleeding and then I go into freak out mode. But what mom doesn’t, right?
I will say though, the thing I struggle with the most is other mothers, and the judgment passed on other mothers. I feel that we as moms need to be kinder to other moms – in a BIG way. Stop judging each other and be happy with who you are as a mom. I know that sounds so silly, but I know we have all been in that conversation of, "…you mean you don’t breastfeed…?” “…what do mean you don’t make organic baby food that you grew in your garden…?"
As if all the children who didn’t get breastfed will fail in life – that’s ridiculous. And “No organic food? Well just forget it, your child will never go to Yale!” If you don’t think these conversations really happen, they do. And all the judgment makes it really difficult to know if you’re doing the right thing. But in reality, only you will know what’s right for you and your family. Follow your heart and the experts – not other judgmental moms – who you truly trust, and your kids will be just fine.
So, for this Mother’s Day, lets all spend less time worrying about what other moms are doing and just enjoy our own families! There are far bigger problems in the world, like how to save money to buy more shoes to be a Cincy Chic mommy!
So, with all that said, I am very excited to be a part of the Cincy Chic family. I think that this publication is wonderful for helping other women and families engage in the community – and, of course, look great in the process!