Our life coach shares how keeping secrets may not be as helpful as you think.
You know that feeling when you get super excited to share with a friend about a movie that you just saw. Can’t wait to tell. Or perhaps it’s an amazing product that you just purchased, and you don’t know how you lived without it. You can’t keep it a secret. You tell everyone.
Then there are the secrets you are told to hold in confidence, to later find yourself telling someone so you can have the relief of keeping something so juicy quiet. Later you may feel bad for sharing, but in the moment you felt relieved.
But what about the secrets you keep buried inside vowing to never tell a soul?
Those secrets you’re telling yourself, or holding inside, which over time become haunting, and may appear in illness, unhealthy weight, lack of energy, or not following through with your commitments.
You know the ones. How can you find relief from those secrets?
What I know from my own experience, and working with my clients, is those secrets you are trying to hide will only return so you continue to club yourself over the head when the secret resurfaces.
The best way to get through any challenge like this is to get crystal clear and be honest with yourself.
Letting go of kept secretes requires work. Try journaling or writing a list to get clarity. Remember the goal is for you to align your energy with a better feeling.
If the secrets from the past are still haunting you, maybe it’s time to learn how to gently let them go. You can begin by imagining them as a movie that you watched and now leaving the theater. Once you leave the theater you no longer have to recall or share what you saw.
Ideally, if you can release the fear around the secret, and smile knowing it cannot harm you, the secret is neutralized by taking back the energy you put towards it. In time, you will discover those secrets will lose their hold on your thoughts and behaviors, no longer controlling your emotions.
Control how your thoughts around those secrets. And whether it’s a secret shared or buried; you get to decided how it will impact you moving forward. You have the power within you to let them go.