Loving What Is

Loving What Is

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As you begin your first week of the new year, our life coach columnist shares the four questions that can change negative thoughts into positive.

Hallelujah! Welcome to 2021! 

The new year has arrived, and you are probably trying to balance the emotions after a year of uncertainty. As you seek to find clarity, and adapt to the “new normal,” the struggle between the sadness and frustrations to the moments of finding love and happiness are challenging. 

As you begin to create a new focus for 2021, I want to share with you a book that I revisited this year by Bryon Katie titled “Loving What Is.”

I was introduced to this book many years ago, to find myself deep into the reading again this past year only because I kept hearing a mantra in my head — “love what is…” and then I realized that’s a book title.  

Katie’s book is about a time when she is depressed and self-loathing and wanted to find a way out.  She had a life changing insight when she realized a simple truth: when she believed her thoughts, she suffered, and when she didn’t, she was happy.

I have realized on my journey “loving what is” comes when releasing some old beliefs and thoughts by applying Katie’s four key questions to a situation, circumstance, or something that does not bring joy and happiness. A simple but effective tool with these questions:

1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do you react when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?

By asking the four questions in order you can create what Katie calls a turnaround question that is the opposite of what you believe from those questions. 

For example – “she doesn’t understand me” becomes “I don’t understand myself.”

By capturing a stressful thoughts and applying the four questions you will begin to release the negative emotions and allowing your energy to shift to a higher frequency which is positive. 

It may be challenging at first but with practice you will discover how you can shift from suffering cognitive behavior to thriving and in all areas of your life. This tool can open your mind and expand your perspective. Give it a try.  

Here’s the link to learn more and practice the process https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

Sending you Love and Light,