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Cutting the overgrown and unhealthy parts of a plant will encourage it to produce and grow better than ever before. Our life coach columnist explains how the same goes for you. 

Say goodbye to those individuals who no longer feed your growth. Everyone in your life must earn the right to stand in your presence in order to share your story. Otherwise, let the pruning begin.

What is pruning?

Pruning is a way to let go of what no longer brings you the high vibration and energy that once existed in a relationship.  

For instance, have you discovered that when around certain people you have a feeling of low energy, one-sided conversation, and leave feeling like you can never get that time back? If so, then this is probably a relationship that no longer serves you.

As I evolved in my spiritual path and changed the way I conducted myself, over time, I realized I didn’t like who I became when I was with certain people.  I found myself shrinking, feeling worthless and often humiliated by what was projected on to me.

When I finally realized I did not like who I was becoming when with these individuals, I gave myself permission to no longer allow this to be the circumstance and let the relationship go. This is what I call standing in my power.

How does this look for you? 

If the person is someone you just can’t simply ‘write off’, learn to stand in what allows you to feel good.  The individual can do what they do, but you don’t have to react. In addition, you can say no to invitations, and you can avoid one-on-one situations.

If the person confronts you with ‘what’s wrong with you’, take that opportunity to say I am learning to listen more and be less reactive. They may snicker and laugh at the statement but when you realize how it deactivates any energetic emotions within you, over time you will feel better.

Pruning is a powerful tool that when done with loving intentions can eliminate others from spoiling your day, month, year, or life.  

Although you may fear the loss of a relationship, consider this – you standing in your power could allow others to rise up to meet you and create a better relationship in the long term.  Or when you decide to prune away the relationship, you will open yourself up to discover better and more fulfilling relationships. The choice is yours. Happy pruning!

Melissa Kirkpatrick
Melissa Kirkpatrick is a Transformational Coach and Motivational Speaker. She’s been featured in Cincy Magazine , CincyChic online magazine and is the author of the impactful self-help book “5 Steps to Your Own D.R.I.V.E.” Melissa offers one-on-one services, motivational speaking and hands-on workshops, allowing individuals and teams to shift their drive from stuck to unstoppable. To learn more, visit or email