As we enter the month of May, we want to say Happy Mother’s Day. This week our business & life coach columnist shares about the number on human condition when it comes to receiving compliments.
The one thing we all have in common is we arrived here through our Mother! Relax, we are not going to talk about our Mothers. The intention for this message is to offer you the reflection on how you can best take care of YOU when it comes to receiving compliments.
You have probably heard and know the value in filling your cup first. You plan to rest, relax, and take time to smell the roses. And you also plan to exercise, eat right, and get plenty of sleep. You know these things to do but often find you aren’t doing them. Why is that?
One of the most felt human condition is “not being enough”.
An example of this is when you receive a compliment such as “wow I love your shoes” or “your hair looks great”. You often will deflect a compliment with a response like “these old things” or “yea, I washed it today.” This response is indicating you aren’t feeling good enough to accept the sweet and kind words (compliment) someone took the time to offer you.
Point is they didn’t have to say anything; but they did.
By you not receiving/hearing the compliment, you are cutting off the energetic feeling of good and replacing it with the energy of “I’m not enough.”
What would be a better response?
“Thank You so Much!” (and stop there). By adding anything more, you are aligning with the “not enough” mindset.
Perhaps you remember your mother saying, “you can get more bees with honey” – and it’s true. The sweeter you are in receiving, the more you attract into your life.
So, the next time someone compliments you:
- Reply with Thank you so much!
- No additional words are needed. Feel the feeling
- Don’t replace their compliment with a compliment back
- Pay it forward knowing how good it feels by offering someone else a compliment
And expect more! That feeling of “I am enough” can come often, raising you into a high energy receptive mode of feeling good, which leads to more goodness.
Don’t allow deflecting words to cause you to miss out. You are enough, and those compliments are all in service to reminding you of that.
Here’s to creating the life you deserve!