Ask Him: What Makes a Perfect Valentines Day?
What would the perfect Valentines Day be for you?
Jackie, 26, Fairfield
Ah, yes. Valentines Day. A holiday that women are certainly more fixated upon than men. Its not that we dont care about a special day to show our love and affection – I guess its just that we dont see why one particular day has to be singled out as more special than any other.
I think you can lump Valentines Day in the same category as birthdays or anniversaries. Dont see the correlation? Just try forgetting any one of those days. Just once. If youre still in the picture the next time one of those days rolls around, theres a pretty good chance shell make sure you never forget again.
She might say it doesnt matter. And maybe it doesnt matter to her – not all that much, anyway. But it still matters. Trust me. It matters.
Valentines Day is the day women expect us to show them how deeply devoted we are to them, and express our undying love for them – through the use of flowers, cheap stuffed animals and chocolate. Unfortunately, it takes most of us guys quite some time to realize that its the thought behind those dancing hamsters and Whitmans samplers that really counts. It shows that, no matter how busy we are every other day of the year, we take the time out of every February 14 to do a little something extra.
So we do it. Why? Because it matters to you. Its not our day. Its your day. We already have a day thats all about us; Its called Super Bowl Sunday.
I know there are plenty of men and women out there who could care less about Valentines Day. And there are plenty of men out there who actually do live for more than just football. When it comes to Valentines Day, I think its really all about taking a moment to tell someone how much they mean to you. To say I love you. Or, if youre single, I like you enough to let you buy me a drink. Or something like that.
Whether its a nice, romantic dinner, a night away from home or even the ubiquitous bouquet of red roses, I think the perfect Valentines Day would consist of doing whatever it is you enjoy doing together, and showing the other person just how grateful you are to have them around. And personally speaking, chocolate wouldnt hurt, either. Preferably dark.