Coach Shari: Weeding
I worked at my desk for way too long and I couldn’t concentrate anymore. On top of that, it was 85 degrees outside and I was itching to enjoy the beautiful weather. I decided that I would go for a quick walk to clear my head. As I walked outside the front door and looked around, I marveled at the front yard. It was as if I was seeing it for the first time.
I noticed that there were some weeds cropping up in one of the flowerbeds, so I decided to delay my walk and take care of it. I looked around and noticed the lush green grass and the flowered trees. As I neared the front of the house, I spotted it. There, in the middle of a nicely manicured bed, was the biggest weed that I had ever seen. It had a very thick stem and a large yellow flower. I’m not exaggerating when I tell you that the flower/weed was at least 5 feet high. If you’re wondering if I’m confused and that it really was a flower, I can 100% assure you that it was a weed.
As I stepped over to the gargantuan weed, I wondered how I had missed it for so long. Much to my dismay, this 5-foot behemoth was not hidden behind bushes. This flower/weed was not obscured from any vantage point in the front yard. How was it possible that this weed went unnoticed by me?
I grabbed it and yanked hard, pulling it out of the ground. I ceremoniously carried the weed to the trash can and threw it out. On my way, I looked around to see if anyone was watching me. In my mind, I wondered how many neighbors had obviously noticed the weed and were taking bets on when I was going to finally do something about it.
As I went for my walk, I wondered how I could have left my house numerous times during the day and driven back into the driveway without ever noticing the obvious. I mean, it was HUGE and in plain sight. I decided that the reason that I didn’t see the weed was because I didn’t want to see it.
As humans, we are wired to seek out pleasure and avoid pain. If you think about it, everything in life comes down to these two things. Let me tell you a secret— I don’t like working in the yard. To me, it’s a pain. I’ve been putting off planting my flowers and other yard work for sometime now. As I thought honestly about this, I realized that I hadn’t noticed the obvious because it was painful for me. I avoided looking at the yard at all costs. This way, I didn’t have to feel any pain or discomfort and could go about my life. Yes, this sounded like denial to me.
As I faced the music, I made a commitment to change this negative pattern. No matter how much progress you make in handling issues in a proactive manner, now and then, you can easily revert back into negative patterns from your past. So here’s you’re wake-up call: is there something in your own life that you’ve been conveniently avoiding? Are there some weeds that you need to attend to in your own garden?
I have faith that you’ll take the steps to move forward in your life.